If you want to move in your life from a place of pain to a place of peace, you have to go through the stages of grief: shock, sorrow, struggle, surrender. You are going to go through major losses in your life; loss can include health, job, friends, relationships, finances, dreams, etc. Loss is unavoidable but grief is a choice. You have to grieve in order to move forward. All living things change. There’s no life without change, there’s no change without loss, and there’s no loss without pain. But, grief is a choice.
ADVERSITY GOSPEL: GOOD GRIEF
Message by Todd Lester – February 19, 2017
THINGS TO KNOW ABOUT GRIEF
1. LOSS IS UNAVOIDABLE BUT GRIEF IS A CHOICE
2. GRIEF IS HEALTHY
John 11:33-36 When Jesus saw her weeping and saw the other people wailing with her, a deep anger welled up within him, and he was deeply troubled… Then Jesus wept. The people who were standing nearby said, “See how much he loved him!”
3. GOD GRIEVES WITH ME
Psalm 34:18 The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.
4. GRIEF IS HEALED IN COMMUNITY
Galatians 6:2 Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.
Romans 12:15 Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep.
5. GRIEF TAKES TIME
Ecclesiastes 3:1,4 For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven… A time to cry and a time to laugh. A time to grieve and a time to dance.
STEPS TO MOVING FORWARD
1. IDENTIFY WHAT I’VE REALLY LOST
Matthew 5:4 God blesses those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
Psalm 23:4 Even when I walk through the darkest valley, I will not be afraid, for you are close beside me. Your rod and your staff protect and comfort me.
2. HAVE THE COURAGE TO LAMENT
Lament = “passionate expression of grief to God”
“Life isn’t all roses and rainbows and my little pony and unicorns.” Todd Lester
Psalms of Lament: Psalm 3-7, 9, 10, 12-14, 17, 22, 25-28, 31, 35, 36, 38, 39, 41-44, 51-61, 64, 70, 71, 74, 77, 79, 80, 82, 83, 85, 86, 88, 90, 94, 102, 109, 137, 139-143, 145
Psalm 88:18 (A psalm of Heman the Ezrahite) “Darkness is my closest friend.”
3. ASK JESUS TO HEAL MY BROKEN HEART
Psalm 103:13-14 The Lord is like a father to his children, tender and compassionate to those who fear him. For he knows how weak we are; he remembers we are only dust.
Luke 4:18 (NKJV) He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted.
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